Top 10 Tips for Single Parenting Sanity

Single parenting sanity.

As a divorced mother of three sons and a recovering codependent, I need all the sanity I can get. I think it’s possible that the conditions that bring about your singleness in parenting could significantly impact your attitude towards it. For me, I embrace it because it is a welcome relief to an emotionally destructive marriage. I’ve got a lot to learn and a lot of areas for growth, but I’m happy to share a few of the things that are keeping me sane as a single mom.

  1. Start the Day by Handing It Over to God. “I’m awake. Now you take over, Lord.” As soon as my eyes are open, I give my worry, my overwhelm, my fear, my aloneness, my fatigue, my everything over to God immediately. And if my self-sufficiency rears its ugly head at any point during the day, I quickly hand it off again.
  2. Keep Sight that Your Kids are Not Really Yours After All. I thank God daily for these wonderful little people that He is letting me care for and trusting me to steward for only a short little while. I know they are His children, not mine so I want to take the best care possible.
  3. Exercise with a Buddy. You are worth it. Work up a sweat and get your blood pumping. Do this daily (if possible, or at least 3-5 times/weekly) with a buddy who will hold you accountable. This stress reliever can add years to your life, not to mention help you have a much happier day. A mom who exercises can show a lot more kindness and patience throughout the day.
  4. Boost Your Immunity with Good Nutrition. Did you know that every dollar spent on preventative health care saves you at least three dollars in actual medical expenses? Drink water. Eat those fruits and veggies. I also take the Peak Performance Pack (which is manufactured by the company I work from home for) and it is so awesome for energy, immunity and heart health. When I need an extra boost, I take their Activate Immune Complex (which has Echinacea) and kills those germs before they ever get a chance to bring me down.
  5. Feel Your Feelings. Taking the time to breathe and just feel what you feel without acting on it, without any condemnation, and without any criticism is so healing. If you want to take this to the next level, daily journaling is powerful as well. My counselor says, “If you can feel it, you can heal it.”
  6. Reach Out for Support. Ask for help. Find people who love you and will listen to you. One of the best community outreach organizations I’ve found is Celebrate Recovery. It’s a beautiful Christ-centered ministry that helps with all kinds of hurts, habits and hang-ups.
  7. Guard Your Heart. Say goodbye to Comparison, Criticism (especially self-criticism) and Control. Those three C’s are the keys to unhappiness. Instead, feed your soul with life-giving truth. The Psalms can really fill you up and you could also feast on content by Leslie VernickMark DeJesus, or Patrick Doyle. Amazing wisdom and peace are there, if you seek them out.
  8. Do the Next Right Thing. Living one moment at a time can really free you up. Receive daily manna. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just do the very next right thing each moment and that will keep you moving on a healthy path.
  9. Get Some Sleep. There’s no badge of honor for total fatigue. Staying up won’t make you more productive. You’ll actually get a lot more done and be a lot nicer to be around by getting the sleep you need.
  10. Keep Your Dreams Alive. Did you want to breastfeed your babies? Did you want to be a stay at home mom? You don’t have to give up your dreams just because you are a single parent. There are fabulous solutions today for having a great career and quality family time. Seek them out. Never, ever give up on your dreams. The main vehicle that’s allowed me to keep my dreams alive has been working from home. If you would like some helpful guidance in this area, you might enjoy my article & free download on Finding Real Work At Home.

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